How taking steps toward your goals relieves the torment of regret

Post #2 in the Time Series

Move toward your goals to relieve the paralyzing effect of regret

Based on Arnold Bennett's Book

Surely it is a simple affair, knowing that one has only twenty-four hours a day, to content one’s self with twenty-four hours a day!”

Here I present my excuses and apologies. Many peoples souls are haunted, more or less painfully, by the feeling that the years slip by, and slip by, and slip by, and that they have not yet been able to get their lives into proper working order.

If we analyze that feeling, we shall perceive it to be, primarily, one of uneasiness, of expectation, of looking forward, of aspiration. It is a source of constant discomfort to be unsure of your way. We ask "What have I done with my youth? What are you doing at this age?” You may urge that this feeling of continuous looking forward, of aspiration, is part of life itself, and inseparable from life itself. Is that True?

But there are degrees. A man may desire to go to Mecca. His conscience tells him that he ought to go to Mecca. He sets out towards his destination (his Goal) he may never reach Mecca; he may drown in a shipwreck he may perish ingloriously on the coast of the Red Sea; his desire to reach his goal may remain incomplete. This unfulfilled aspiration may always trouble him...but he will not be tormented in the same way as the man who, desiring to reach Mecca, and is harassed by the desire to reach Mecca but never leaves his home or fails to make a move towards the goal.

It is something to have left Home...striving. Many of us have not moved toward our large targets. We have not even taken that first step...inquired about the cost. And our excuse to ourselves is that there are only twenty-four hours in the day.

If we further analyze our vague, uneasy aspiration, we shall, I think, see that it springs from a fixed idea that we ought to do something in addition to those things which we are loyally and morally obliged to do. We are obliged, by various codes written and unwritten, to maintain ourselves and our families (if any) in health and comfort, to pay our debts, to save, to increase our prosperity by increasing our efficiency. A task sufficiently difficult! A task which very few of us achieve! A task often beyond our skill! yet, if we succeed in it, as we sometimes do, we are not satisfied; the unfulfilled aspirations are still with us.

And even when we realize that the task is beyond our skill, that our powers cannot cope with it, we feel that we should be less discontented if we gave to our powers, already overtaxed, something still further to do.

And such is, indeed, the fact. The wish to accomplish something outside their formal program is common to all men who in the course of evolution have risen past a certain level.

Until an effort is made to satisfy that wish, the sense of uneasy waiting for something to start which has not started will remain to disturb the peace of the soul. That wish has been called by many names. It is one form of the universal desire for knowledge. And it is so strong that men whose whole lives have been given to the systematic acquirement of knowledge have been driven by it to overstep the limits of their program in search of still more knowledge.

I imagine that in the majority of people who are conscious of the wish to live--that is to say, people who have intellectual curiosity--the aspiration to exceed formal programs takes a social and technological shape. You would like to embark on a course of searching. Decidedly the American people are becoming more and more social and tech savvy. But I would point out that the use of the internet is by no means comprises the whole field of knowledge, and that the disturbing appetite to improve one’s self--to increase one’s knowledge--may well be set quite apart from more devices. I will deal with the various ways that we sluggishly move forward a bit later in these postings. Here I merely point out to those who have no natural sympathy with technology that devices are not the only well that we can dip into when moving forward towards our targets.


Part One (Written)
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1) Write a paragraph about your own obligations...Tell me about the things that are expected from you on a daily or weekly basis that have nothing to do with your bigger long-term goals.

2) Add some of the things that you are restricted from doing on a daily or weekly basis.

Part Two (Procedural) 
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