How taking steps toward your goals relieves the torment of regret

Post #2 in the Time Series

Move toward your goals to relieve the paralyzing effect of regret

THE DESIRE TO EXCEED ONE’S PROGRAM (Edited and Modernized)
Based on Arnold Bennett's Book

Surely it is a simple affair, knowing that one has only twenty-four hours a day, to content one’s self with twenty-four hours a day!”

Here I present my excuses and apologies. Many peoples souls are haunted, more or less painfully, by the feeling that the years slip by, and slip by, and slip by, and that they have not yet been able to get their lives into proper working order.

If we analyze that feeling, we shall perceive it to be, primarily, one of uneasiness, of expectation, of looking forward, of aspiration. It is a source of constant discomfort to be unsure of your way. We ask "What have I done with my youth? What are you doing at this age?” You may urge that this feeling of continuous looking forward, of aspiration, is part of life itself, and inseparable from life itself. Is that True?

But there are degrees. A man may desire to go to Mecca. His conscience tells him that he ought to go to Mecca. He sets out towards his destination (his Goal) he may never reach Mecca; he may drown in a shipwreck he may perish ingloriously on the coast of the Red Sea; his desire to reach his goal may remain incomplete. This unfulfilled aspiration may always trouble him...but he will not be tormented in the same way as the man who, desiring to reach Mecca, and is harassed by the desire to reach Mecca but never leaves his home or fails to make a move towards the goal.

It is something to have left Home...striving. Many of us have not moved toward our large targets. We have not even taken that first step...inquired about the cost. And our excuse to ourselves is that there are only twenty-four hours in the day.

If we further analyze our vague, uneasy aspiration, we shall, I think, see that it springs from a fixed idea that we ought to do something in addition to those things which we are loyally and morally obliged to do. We are obliged, by various codes written and unwritten, to maintain ourselves and our families (if any) in health and comfort, to pay our debts, to save, to increase our prosperity by increasing our efficiency. A task sufficiently difficult! A task which very few of us achieve! A task often beyond our skill! yet, if we succeed in it, as we sometimes do, we are not satisfied; the unfulfilled aspirations are still with us.

And even when we realize that the task is beyond our skill, that our powers cannot cope with it, we feel that we should be less discontented if we gave to our powers, already overtaxed, something still further to do.

And such is, indeed, the fact. The wish to accomplish something outside their formal program is common to all men who in the course of evolution have risen past a certain level.

Until an effort is made to satisfy that wish, the sense of uneasy waiting for something to start which has not started will remain to disturb the peace of the soul. That wish has been called by many names. It is one form of the universal desire for knowledge. And it is so strong that men whose whole lives have been given to the systematic acquirement of knowledge have been driven by it to overstep the limits of their program in search of still more knowledge.

I imagine that in the majority of people who are conscious of the wish to live--that is to say, people who have intellectual curiosity--the aspiration to exceed formal programs takes a social and technological shape. You would like to embark on a course of searching. Decidedly the American people are becoming more and more social and tech savvy. But I would point out that the use of the internet is by no means comprises the whole field of knowledge, and that the disturbing appetite to improve one’s self--to increase one’s knowledge--may well be set quite apart from more devices. I will deal with the various ways that we sluggishly move forward a bit later in these postings. Here I merely point out to those who have no natural sympathy with technology that devices are not the only well that we can dip into when moving forward towards our targets.

Assignment:

Part One (Written)
Use the comment section in this post to write your reflections as indicated below.

1) Write a paragraph about your own obligations...Tell me about the things that are expected from you on a daily or weekly basis that have nothing to do with your bigger long-term goals.

2) Add some of the things that you are restricted from doing on a daily or weekly basis.

Part Two (Procedural) 
1) Select Name/URL in the Comment section.
2) Use your first name and last name initial in the name field
3) Type: gilpin.k12.co.us in the URL field
4) Type your comment as indicated above
5) Use the Select Screen Shot function on your Chrome to take a screenshot of your comment and then upload the screenshot to the Google Classroom assignment and turn it in.
6) Publish your comment on this post

40 comments:

  1. I have to go outside everyday.my restrictions are I cant bring my phone to bed or computer.

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  2. my obligation on a weekly or even a daily basis is to feed my fish , clean my room and empty the dishwasher. these very things though are keeping me from being a pro gamer like Tfue or Ninja they both make money doing what they love and grew up doing. I want to be able to do those things but even having so little to do i feel is keeping me from it

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  3. My daily obligations are to, do the laundry it has nothing to do with my long term goals but it is my job and it is my duty to do said job , the whole house depends on me doing the laundry so I do it. I am now really restricted from anything really but for school nights we must go too sleep at 11:30 and that's about it .

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  4. What are you doing at this age?” reading this

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  5. The things that are expected from me are to sleep before 10:30 and to do many other tasks. One other obligation I expect myself to do is to get ready during the morning. Brushing teeth, doing hair, and all that stuff. I restrict myself from watching tv or playing video games because it restricts me from sleeping and getting ready for the night.

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  6. I think that life is like a story or a game if you choose certain options then you will end up with a good/bad ending also you choose to explore but it doesnt change your ending

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  7. i have to make my dad coffee. and take out the trash and clean my room

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  8. I am obligated to do all of my chores so I can play on my tablet and so I can get free time.I am restricted from staying up past 10:00 or using my tablet when not allowed.

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  9. I have to let my dog out of the kennel every morning because she barks every moning in thee kennel

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  10. The things that are expected of me on a daily basis include; watching over my siblings to ensure they don't kill eachother, cleaning the house to ensure that we don't live in a dump, and occasionally cook dinner on top of getting good grades in school. I am restricted from playing "Dungeons and Dragons" or "Powered by the Apocalypse: Monster of the Week" on a daily basis because my parents aren't alwasy available to drive me to the sessions and I have school work to do. I have to be in bed by 10:30 as well, but I am not too restricted from my books and technology.

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  11. In my everyday life I am expected to do many things that do not contribute to my later goals, these things also sometimes restrict upon what i am able to do. I need to clean my room and bathroom, babysit my siblings as needed, and feed the chickens, dogs, and rabbits,along wit cleaning the kitchen. Soe times these thing prevent me from doing things, dances, concerts,ect. but they all must be done because they are fundamental to home.

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  12. I am obligated to take care of my dogs, do dishes, and do my laundry. I am restricted from staying up past 10pm, and doing illegal things.

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  13. Each week on random days I have to feed my dogs breakfast or dinner or both, depending on whether or not someone else has fed them. I am expected to pick up my stuff around the house. I am also expected to get my homework done that night. I am restricted from spending all my time goofing off by watching TV or playing video games. I am sometimes restricted from going over to a friends house if I have not finished something I should have.

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  14. My daily obligations are taking my siblings to school, and keeping the house clean. I'm restricted by my parents from spending the night at friends houses on school nights and I'm restricted from going places without telling my parents first.

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  15. i am restricted to bring any kind of drug into my house. also i'm not allowed to bring or do anything that is just plain stupid. and i'm also restricted to cursing in my house.

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  16. Someone of the things that are expected of me are, chores everyday I have to do them. Another one that is expected of me is managing my time on our ps4( I play way more than I should, most days I play for more than 5 hours.) Some of the restrictions I have are, no more than 2 hours on my ps4. Another one is I can't drink all of the cokes in the fridge. I can't stay up past 11:30. In all I have a lot of restrictions, but sometimes you need these. If you don't have any restrictions you can get away with anything. It is hard to have so many restrictions on what you do, but it is worth it. If you prove you can follow certain things in your household, maybe your parents with lessen your restrictions.

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  17. On a daily basis, I am expected to do well in school, keep my grades above at least a C, and do my homework. Occasionally I am expected to empty the trash or pick up dog poop. I am not allowed to spend the night at a girls house or stay out past 7:30 on a school night.

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  18. My own long term goal is to become part of the army I would love to go in to military police and go to basic and everything. After that I want to become a K-9 unit after I and deployed a few time and can travel and enjoy life.

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  19. I have many obligations in life some of which have nothing to do with my long term goal. Some of theses are chores such as do the laundry, clean dishes, keep my room clean. All theses have nothing to do with my long term goal but it is still something i have to do in life. Some restrictions i have in life is i don't have free time between my jod school and sports this restricts me from having time with family and friends

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  20. On a daily basis, I am expected to maintain good grades, keep my room cleaned,do my homework, and show up to every practice for both cheer and volleyball. I am not allowed to have a sleepover on school nights, stay up till 2am watching grey's anatomy, and skip school.

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  21. My daily obligations are to do my laundry and keep my room organized, as well as do the dishes and whatever other chores I have to do. None of those have anything to do with my bigger, long-term goals. Generally, if I miss a day of school I can't do anything for the rest of the week except sports practice and going to school. Also, if I don't maintain a B average I can't drive.

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  22. EH: I have obligations at home and at school. I have rules that I have to follow in order to obtain the standing that I have acquired. At home I have to do the chores that I am told to do. Such as take care of my brother whenever my parents are out. I cannot stay in my room all day and night while I have no idea what is going on outside of the walls and door that keep me inclosed. I have to be aware of my surroundings in other words. I also have to be able to cook and clean for myself and my brothers while they are gone. I cannot leave them out to make themselves something to eat. I have to know what to make them and when to make it for them. I have to be able to keep myself on task and them on task as well. The days that my parents are out I have to turn myself into an adult. I cannot be a child while there are no adults around to guard or protect them. At school I have to keep myself on task and focus on my academics. I have to be able to do all of my work so that I have less work to do at home. After school I do not get home right away. I have to go to volleyball. There I have to be able to keep myself focused in the games and drills that we run. I have to be positive and not drop my head in the process. I have a lot of responsibilities at home, school, and volleyball. I cannot let anybody down, not even myself.

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  23. The things I am expected to do when I come home are, I am restricted to not using or bring drugs or guns in to my house. Also restricted from using video games during the week so I can get my homework done during the school week.

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  24. I am obligated to take care of my dogs. I have to feed them, and take them for walks. I have to do laundry every other day. I help my parents take the trash to the dump and unload all of it. I am restricted from staying up past 10pm and doing illegal things like drugs.

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  25. I have to chop wood every weekend to keep the house warm in the winter rain or shine.

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  26. Some of my obligations that won't affect my future are making my bed every other day, cleaning the bathroom every week, doing mitigation in the yard, cleaning my room.

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  27. i am restricted to bring any kind of drug into my house. also i'm not allowed to bring or do anything that is just plain stupid. and i'm also restricted to cursing in my house.

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  28. "The Desire to exceed one's program" by Arnold Bennett is about how people are not able to achieve their goals. I have many obligations at home that do not contribute to my later goals in life. One obligation I have is to feed my dogs and walk them around the back yard everyday when I get home. Another obligation I have is im required to do 2 or more chores each day and clean the house every month. I am also obligated to help my parents with spelling and writing emails. The last thing I am expected to do is help my friends with homework over the internet when I get home.

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  29. There are few things that I need to do weekly/daily that do not have anything to do with what I want to do in the future. One of the biggest things is to do my homework. Although it will help with my school life, I do not need biology, geometry, civics, or english to do what my dream in life is. Other things that matter but don't really have anything to do with me persuading my dream but I am obligated to are things like taking care of my pets, or doing my laundry. Things that I am restricted to are doing things that I want until my other chores are done.

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  30. The things that are expected of me on a daily basis include; me trying to wake up in the morning, trying to make breakfast, helping my sister with whatever she needs, working on cutting wood. I have to be in bed by 11:00 am.in am obligated to do all my chores.

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  31. Every day I have to wake up, get out of bed, get dressed and ready for the day,make coffee (or else my day will go really bad), eat, go to school, endure multiple classes and teachers that I don't particularly like, go to practice, go home, hunt (which I actually enjoy), go to bed and then do it all over again. My restrictions are the fact that I don't nearly get enough sleep, and I can't go hunting when I don't have my homework done;.

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  32. my obligation on a daily or even weekly basis is to feed my fish clean my room and do the dishes these things even though small its keep me from doing what i love with is play football and fortnite

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  33. my obligations on a daily basi is to get out of bed get dressed and feed all my animals then i got to school and ass soon as i get out of school i go to football practice which is almost the only thing i like school wise after that i go home and try to finish my homework after that i go outside and either ride bmx or go hunting for small game like squirrels and rabbits the only thing keeping me from my goal of being a gamer is i don't have a great setup and sometimes i cant play.

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  34. my obligations on a daily or weekly basis is to wake up get out of bed get dressed feed my animals then go to school . once school is out i go to football practice. once football is over i go home check on my animals then finish my homework once i am done with that i hunt for rabbits and squirrels.

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  35. The things that are expected from me are to sleep before 10:30 and to do many other tasks. One other obligation I expect myself to do is to get ready during the morning. Brushing teeth, doing hair, and all that stuff. I restrict myself from watching tv or playing video games because it restricts me from sleeping and getting ready for the night.

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  36. one of my obligations is to do the dishes and take out the trash.

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  37. My daily day after school is, I have to watch my brother everyday after school. The reason why is my mom doesn't get off of work until 5. The time my mom gets home is 5:45. So my daily day is watching my brother after school.

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